Those years.....

Life was much simpler when we were a kid. I use to day dream a lot. My auntie had lots of these imported magazine. I dunno why, it was hidden under my grandma's bed, but I would flip thru the pages, and kissed the beautiful models on the lips........

I was 6 years old then! When I grew up, and remembered what I did, I told myself, I was already sick in the mind, since I was that young. There was no erection then, I was too young, but I do not know what makes me kissed those glossy papers! We do not even have television then!

Then I remembered somemore, at the age of 8, I started day dreaming about women (mind you not girls, but grown adult women). The word "marry" was constantly on my mind. I do not really understand what marriage was all about. I do not even know about sex! But the innate feelings that stirs in my groin was physically felt.

At the age of 10, I was already an expert making male and female figurines using plastercine. Surprisingly I was making them make love to each other. I do not recall anyone telling me or teaching me how it was done.

It was also during those years, I somewhat despise the opposite sex. I was more day dreaming inventing and producing flawless female robots. Obeying my commands and wishes. Yes, having erotic capabilites and indulgence.

When I was 12, after trying to "tackle" a classmate fail with a huge disastrous result, I somehow hates women. So my daydreaming focused more on making females robots........

Then at the age of 13, I was introduced, more like I was experimenting on masturbation. The pleasure of achieving orgasm was so wonderful. Without realising it, I must have masturbate a lot, that I forgot about the dreams of making female robots.

If I am not mistaken, only at the age of 16, I finally kissed a girl. I was madly in love. Learn the pleasure of kissing. We had "chemistry". Learn French kissing even without knowing what it was all about.

I only learn and practically making love, in the real sense, at the age of 21.

P/S: There was a darker side of me, which I purposely left out in this post. Frolicking naked in bed with older ladies, I started much younger. And those years of experimenting with sex also begin much earlier. The truth might not be acceptable by the general reader.

18 SX - Female Orgasm 101- Continued (Final)

Continuation.

ii) Using your tongue.

If you are already familiar with helping her to achieve orgasm by masturbation with your fingers, you might want to try giving her oral.

It is best if she takes a bath first. Better both of you take a bath. Make it a habit to take care of yours and hers hygiene. It can be a not so good experience for you if her love hole is not properly clean.

Start with the normal kissing and petting. You may kiss and lick her all over. Reading her body language you may know where to linger longer. Normally areas near or around the neck will arouse her. There are so many parts and areas of her body that you can kiss and lick that will please her. So give it a try. Different person, different parts and areas of the body. In general they are the same.

Now that you have turned her into a horny bitch, you better start to focus on her pubic area. Kiss lightly all over her pubic. Tease her clitoris with the tips of your wet tongue. As usual, gently licked the labia of her vagina.

Lick her clitoris lightly and gently. See her reaction. Once her clitoris is hard and protruding, suck it. Please do not bite it..... Varies your stroke of licking her clitoris, and sucking it gently and a little bit harder from time to time. Always noticing her reaction and react to it in a possitive manner.

Usually it is not difficult to make her cum, provided you follow the guide from the beginning. Most of the time when she is cumming, she would like you to slide your penis into her.

There are variation to this technic, like inserting your fingers in her vagina as you lick her. Or the infamous 69 position. You can even gently play with her nipples while sucking and licking her clitoris. Try out, learn and act further to help her achieve a great orgasm.


iii) Using your penis.

Once you have tried out i) an ii), iii) will come naturally. Repeating my warning : If it is the first time (first night they call it), please be very gentle with her. If on the first try you are not succesful, please try again later or another day. DO NOT USE FORCE!

When she shows signs of enjoying your entrance into her vagina, try out different strokes and position. Yes, it is possible to make her cum just by inserting your penis in her vagina. However, it is not so easy. Not many men can please the women using strictly this technic. So you do not have to be ashame... or feel lesser than the next man.

You may vary your position and using technic i) and ii) simultaneously. It is easier to make her cum combining these technics.


6) Reminders.

a) Promote safe sex. Use condom and avoid multiple partners. Avoid one night stands with strangers. It might be your last.

b) Have a great sexual relationship to bond your love for each other stronger. Learn to differentiate between love and lust.

c) When you are in doubt or not sure, DO NOT DO IT!


I hope my post have been a little help to everybody. Most probably I am writing that everyone already knows. Have a great long weekend. Be adventurous, make your women cum!

My apology if I offend anyone, dead or alive.

18 SX - Female Orgasm 101- Continued

Continuation......

e) Now to make her cum(orgasm). Try to make her cum first. IF YOU CAN MAKE HER CUM TOGETHER WITH YOU, THAT WILL BE THE PREFERENCE!

There is no easy or simple way to make a women orgasm. Below are some of the easier technics:

i) Using your fingers.

If you have gone thru all the steps 5a to 5d, both of you should be arouse. If any of you is still not arouse, then you better repeat some of the steps. Listen to her, if not by her request, listen to her body language. Very easy to know if she is fully arouse is when her vagina is wet. Most women love to be touch.... so to know if she is wet or not, it is ok to touch!

Next is to find her clitoris. Do it gently. Imagine your middle finger is a feather. From the vagina, move or trace your fingers up. The clitoris should be just above her urinary tract, about 1 or 2 cm above. Usually it is hidden under her top vagina lips. You may have problem finding it, if her pubic hair is in excessive. Best to trim or shave it off! You will know when you have touched it as she should be giving some sort of whining or moaning sound.

You may use her own secrete from her vagina to lubricate her clitoris. Baby oil/lotion makes better lubrication, but will hinder some other action that you might want to exercise later. Slowly and gently stroke her lubricated clitoris. The motion, you may try a few and see the response. It can be an up and down motion, or even circular motion, or even a combination of motions. Concentrate on the motion that gives the loudest sound (whining or moaning!). Please be reminded, to be really gentle... If you hurt the clitoris, there goes your chance to help her achieve orgasm!

To help her further, while masturbating her (Yes you are actually masturbating her. Yes it is easier to masturbate a man!) you may lick or suck her tits. Again, please be gentle, especially for beginners. Much later, you may be a little bit more rough. That is when both of you already understand each other's body.

If you are lucky, she may cum within 15 minutes. Sometimes, it will take longer.... much longer. So be patience, if you have to repeat the process. Listen to her suggestion(s) and be very focus on her body language. Later you can be more adventurous, but always have the consent of your partner.

Usually, when she comes her body will quiver or squirm with excitement and she will moan quite loud. And most of the time, she will push you away the moment she cums. My advice is to slowly and gently hug and hold her in a very loving embrace. Stroke her body where it is NOT tickling her. This is a warm down thing, so do it for at least 15 minutes. Kissing her on her forehead, cheeks and lips. However, if any of you need to go to the loo, please do so. Do NOT try to embrace her then. When she is done, then you may hug her........

Then you may repeat some of the process again, but this time you are doing it to satisfy yourself. Do not be worried, women can cum lots of time! How you want to be satisfied, that is another post.

Variation on this method:
- You may insert your fingers on the other hand into her vagina while masturbating her with the other hand. Please start with one finger... then you may add more fingers and see her reaction.
- Using the side by side position, as you masturbate her, you can penetrate her with your hard erected penis. So many times I have said this, please be very gentle especially if it is for the first time! You may also use your other hand to stroke or play with her breast and nipples. As you get use to it, you may even be able to suck or lick her breast and nipples. This position, will be able to help both of you to achieve orgasm together!

Caution: Women do fake their orgasm. Please do not confront them. Just understand her body language better and try harder! For the first timers, yes the virgin women does get hurt when your penis (or even fingers) penetrate her vagina. So be very very gentle, cause she may have phobia later. We are not talking about her can achieve orgasm or not, but there are cases, the women refuse to have sex for weeks or months later!


ii) Using your tounge.

To be continued ........

18 SX - Female Orgasm 101

Warning : Please skip reading this article as it may not be suitable for you. If you keep on reading, you are at your own risk.

Disclaimer: This is my personal view and nobody shall be liable for whatever is written here.

Women has always been delicate. Like fine cloth, the more expensive the cloth is the more do's and dont's should apply. So what I am writing here is base on stories I personally heard, and my own experience. In other words it is from experience, not from formal lab testing or studies done by the relevant authority on this subject.

Lets focus on how to help a women achieve orgasm. I am trying to make it simple and I am breaking it into these steps:

1) The place.
Make sure it is something where both of you are comfortable. Take note of her dislike and like on what kind of place she prefers. Match with yours, then you make your choice. For married couples, the bedroom should be the preference. Other areas are game too, living room, kitchen or even the bathroom depending on your preference and sense of adventure. For those that have limited resources, a cosy hotel room might be the choice. But do not limit yourself, in an open field, or a beach will be fine too, as long both of you are comfortable......

Set the ambience right. Music both of you enjoy. Much better if the music has a calming effect on her. Scents that is not too strong. Dim lighting and maybe lighting from candles.

2) The time.
Choose a time that both of you are not in a rush. Make sure nobody will suddenly pop in. Or when the kids are still awake. Or being raid by the religious department....... quank quank quank....

3) Your hygiene.
Both of you take a shower, better if it is together. Wear clothes that is comfortable and not too cumbersome to disrobe later. Put on some perfume that she loves. Make sure those pubic hairs or other hairy areas of your body are trim neatly or even shaved off depending on her preference.

4) F&B.
A candle light dinner will be good to get into a romantic mood, but do not eat or drink too much. You do not want to end in the loo every now and then, and avoid farting ok..... especially in her presence!

5) The process in general. You may make changes as these are only guides:

a) Have light conversation. On topics that she is well verse with.

b) Caress her gently. This includes kissing. Different women have different parts they love to be caressed. Caressing is an art, the more you do it, the more you will learn. So is kissing. From the gentle subtle kiss to the hard and rough french kissing. Take your time to explore her body. Take note the effects that it gives her, this is for your future reference. Do have light conversation, especially complementing on her looks or figure. If you have nothing to compliment, shut up!

c) Be responsive. Making love is not a one way street. In your eagerness to please her, you fully focus on her only. You should let her have her fun on you too.

d) Gently and slowly do get both of you to undress. Yeah I know it is difficult, when both of you are hot and horny. Do it in stages. Take off one by one, and lingers on the underwear as long as possible.

e) Now to make her cum(orgasm). Try to make her cum first. IF YOU CAN MAKE HER CUM TOGETHER WITH YOU, THAT WILL BE THE PREFERENCE!

......... To be continued.

18SX - Female Orgasm

Warning : If this article offends you, please do not read. I am not an expert in this matter and not liable for anything that is written hereafter.

Time for me to answer those questions. I hate Mondays, so I think I will answer it today. Now what was the questions again?

Q1) Can all women achieve orgasm?

A1) Not all, but most can achieve orgasm. Those that can't are usually too deep rooted on the negativity of sex. Some does not even know that they are suppose to have orgasm.
Note: For those that is in the 75% category (Please refer to my 25% theory general answer to Q2) you can definitely achieve orgasm!


Q2) Can all women achieve orgasm everytime they have sex?

A1) Possible.
Note: The more you understand and be more sensitive about your lady partner, the easier you can help her achieve her orgasm. Technics differ, most by use of the middle fingers and tongues while some awesome dudes they deliver with raw farking(KH I use your spelling for that forbidden word)!


Q3) Does women fake orgasm?

A1) They do. Please refer to some of the reason already answered by blackfeline aka KH (Kuching Hitam).
Note: However, men should know and be aware when their lady partner(s) fake. Men also should accept the facts that there are times men can't perform the best all the time.



I do wish that there are guide to make a women achieve orgasm. This subject I will ponder. Maybe my next topic. Maybe some of the ladies will blog about it?







Female orgasm frequent Answers & Questions. Would like to see KH start a forum maybe? Hey, I think it helps the world if more women can achieve orgasm. Imagine the world without wars....... he he he... I am too far fetch, or is it?




Now who can tell me how the above Gel function? (Picture courtesy of sexxtoy.uk.com).

Answers for my friends. 18 SX.

Too much work lately, and I don't have enough sleep. Was with the contractors till early this morning. Just finish presenting the cash flow to my boss. Surprise ... surprise... The boss accepted my cash flow proposal that I rushed to do this morning. So now preparing to present to the board members tomorrow morning. I am tired and do not have enough sleep. To top it all I am not done yet preparing for my presentation Friday afternoon. Ermmm... two papers.... Let me ponder....

Thanks HL for your comment. I never thought you will comment on my blog. Ya la, I have been commenting on your blog for years..... I can't wait when Ni-mu will start her own blog! Why I need to ponder on those question was because I am trying to find some answers other than my own.

KH! Finally I got you to comment on my blog. Can't resist the topic I assume? Partly written to get a response from you. Hey, overall I am doing great, especially knowing my angel is hovering near by. I appreciate that you visited my blog often.

Diyana, you can be assured old people like me do think in a very immature way at times. And definitely when you come to my age, you will be enlighten that there is a part in us, that does not want to grow up. Me, I am a coward, immature and insecure person. No, I am not degrading myself, but more of coming to terms with myself.


Ah! Now come to the answers. I hope the answers can give more insight to men in general.

1) Do men have a good time everytime they have sex?
A1) Yes in general, men do feel good everytime they had sex. Of course, discounting those that has ED or mentally challenge.
A2) In general, men do have great sex when they have positive chemistry with their partner (caught you ladies there, need not be with the opposite sex!).
A3) However, there are times when the foreplay was so intense, that the finishing was an anticlimax.......

2) Do most men only care to satisfy themself during sex?
A1) This is where my 25% theory comes in. About 25% of the male population only care that they are satisfied. Another 25% may NOT satisfy their partners. The other 25% may satisfy their partners. And if you are lucky, the rest of the 25% would love to satisfy you too. So do not bother to ask the first batch of 25% to satisfy you. The next 25% need lots of hardwork from you if you want to be satisfied. And the next 25% usually will follow your response. Well, the lucky one (or the unlucky one, see some people can be satisfied more than 8 times a day!) they just make a wonderful sex slave! So which male category are you in? Dont worry, after reading this I am sure you want to be last batch of 25% or maybe the first batch?

3) Do most men think about sex most of the time?
A1) KH seems to think so. Maybe it is true. I have been thinking about sex since I was 6 years old.
A2) I would like to think more of, when a man sees a sexy person, then the visualisation and fantasizing kicks in. Men don't usually think about sex when they see a beautiful person. They admire that person.
A3) However, there is a third eye on a second head down there, that is blind, but that second head without a brain does have it's issue of wanting "it" every now and then. Most of the time uncontrollable!

Ermm... I hope I answered my questions well. Anyone care to grade my answers?

Below are more questions, however, I will only attempt to answer it next week. All of you are welcome to give your answers meanwhile.

Ladies and gentlemen, here are the questions:

Q1) Can all women achieve orgasm?

Q2) Can all women achieve orgasm everytime they have sex?

Q3) Does women fake orgasm?

Cheers!

18 SX - Having a good sex session.

Hehehe..... no, today I am more questioning the topic itself. As I am no expert, I have to ask more questions. And maybe, in my quest to find the answers, I will learn some truth. I always wonder, if most that we heard about sex were just myths?

Q1 : Do men have a good time evertime they have sex?
Q2 : Do most men only care to satisfy themself during sex?
Q3 : Do most men thinks about sex most of the time?

I will begin to ask myself these questions. Maybe try to answer them from my own perspective view or even speculation.

There are times that I realised, topics about sex an intimacy were actually put aside or totally frowned upon by some people. These does not only involved the older generation, but also some of the younger generation.

Let me ponder on my own questions and hope to have some revealation soon. And you can bet I will have more questions! Hehehe......

To all : Have a wonderful and fulfilling sex life!