18 SX - Female Orgasm 101- Continued

Continuation......

e) Now to make her cum(orgasm). Try to make her cum first. IF YOU CAN MAKE HER CUM TOGETHER WITH YOU, THAT WILL BE THE PREFERENCE!

There is no easy or simple way to make a women orgasm. Below are some of the easier technics:

i) Using your fingers.

If you have gone thru all the steps 5a to 5d, both of you should be arouse. If any of you is still not arouse, then you better repeat some of the steps. Listen to her, if not by her request, listen to her body language. Very easy to know if she is fully arouse is when her vagina is wet. Most women love to be touch.... so to know if she is wet or not, it is ok to touch!

Next is to find her clitoris. Do it gently. Imagine your middle finger is a feather. From the vagina, move or trace your fingers up. The clitoris should be just above her urinary tract, about 1 or 2 cm above. Usually it is hidden under her top vagina lips. You may have problem finding it, if her pubic hair is in excessive. Best to trim or shave it off! You will know when you have touched it as she should be giving some sort of whining or moaning sound.

You may use her own secrete from her vagina to lubricate her clitoris. Baby oil/lotion makes better lubrication, but will hinder some other action that you might want to exercise later. Slowly and gently stroke her lubricated clitoris. The motion, you may try a few and see the response. It can be an up and down motion, or even circular motion, or even a combination of motions. Concentrate on the motion that gives the loudest sound (whining or moaning!). Please be reminded, to be really gentle... If you hurt the clitoris, there goes your chance to help her achieve orgasm!

To help her further, while masturbating her (Yes you are actually masturbating her. Yes it is easier to masturbate a man!) you may lick or suck her tits. Again, please be gentle, especially for beginners. Much later, you may be a little bit more rough. That is when both of you already understand each other's body.

If you are lucky, she may cum within 15 minutes. Sometimes, it will take longer.... much longer. So be patience, if you have to repeat the process. Listen to her suggestion(s) and be very focus on her body language. Later you can be more adventurous, but always have the consent of your partner.

Usually, when she comes her body will quiver or squirm with excitement and she will moan quite loud. And most of the time, she will push you away the moment she cums. My advice is to slowly and gently hug and hold her in a very loving embrace. Stroke her body where it is NOT tickling her. This is a warm down thing, so do it for at least 15 minutes. Kissing her on her forehead, cheeks and lips. However, if any of you need to go to the loo, please do so. Do NOT try to embrace her then. When she is done, then you may hug her........

Then you may repeat some of the process again, but this time you are doing it to satisfy yourself. Do not be worried, women can cum lots of time! How you want to be satisfied, that is another post.

Variation on this method:
- You may insert your fingers on the other hand into her vagina while masturbating her with the other hand. Please start with one finger... then you may add more fingers and see her reaction.
- Using the side by side position, as you masturbate her, you can penetrate her with your hard erected penis. So many times I have said this, please be very gentle especially if it is for the first time! You may also use your other hand to stroke or play with her breast and nipples. As you get use to it, you may even be able to suck or lick her breast and nipples. This position, will be able to help both of you to achieve orgasm together!

Caution: Women do fake their orgasm. Please do not confront them. Just understand her body language better and try harder! For the first timers, yes the virgin women does get hurt when your penis (or even fingers) penetrate her vagina. So be very very gentle, cause she may have phobia later. We are not talking about her can achieve orgasm or not, but there are cases, the women refuse to have sex for weeks or months later!


ii) Using your tounge.

To be continued ........